Stay Stuck Where You Are, Or Rise!

“If you knew that you could literally create whatever reality you wanted, what would you do differently? What would you hope for, dream of, and imagine?” - - Jess Hartwell

It's really that simple. It's the conscious choice to stop repeating the patterns of the past, and step into new thoughts and habits that create a different outcome.

They say the definition of insanity is trying the same thing over and over, and expecting a different outcome. And while that may seem a bit harsh, it makes sense, because if you could step into presence and witness the truth of the loop, you'd stop it immediately.

I see it endlessly in my work with clients over the years. A desperate plea wondering why the same things keep happening to them, like clockwork. These are subtle consistencies like:

✨ Attracting partners that are avoidant and not emotionally intelligent

✨ Staying stuck in jobs and careers where they don't feel fulfilled or valued

✨ Chronic pain and health cycles and crisis that keeps them bound in the body

✨ Repetitive thoughts that tell them their dreams aren't realistic

✨ Feeling bored, stagnant, uninspired by the mundane waves of life

✨ An inability to feel like they are growing, feeling bound by the pain of things that                   happened decades ago.

I don't write this to discredit their experience, I get it on a deeply personal level. I used to be truly anchored into my identity as a victim of my experience and I chose people, jobs and paths that led me down that same route over and over. Like I had connected my frequency with suffering - because I really believed that's what life was all about.

So I write this with a compassionate spirit, but at some point we have to get sick of our own bullsh!t. 

But then what?

How do we transform our understanding of the world, our experiences and ourselves when they are so deeply engrained into our identity? It starts with awareness. Without it, you're just a fart in a whirlwind, looking for a place to land.

Now, can I get really real here, how are you folks that don't meditate even surviving at all? I've always wondered! Meditation is a tool I use several times a day, in a variety of different ways to bring my awareness out of the storyline and thought loops, and back into a state of presence.

It doesn't have to be a big deal and you don't need sit in a cave in the Himilayas. It is just the conscious choice to witness the thoughts as they flow in rather than cling to them. When you start to watch the thoughts it becomes very clear which ones feel good, which ones feel awful, and which ones are productive versus destructive.

When you can catch them in the moment, and consciously reframe, then FEEL into your body the sensations of the new thought - you are in business! You're are now the creator of your reality and the witness of the mind, instead of the person getting spun around by it!

Thoughts I've caught myself having before and their reframes:

✨ Life has always been hard, so it's always going to be hard. (What a story, right?!)

➡️ This feels heavy, hopeless and uninspiring. I feel it in my chest, and as a deep ache in my stomach. It feels like I can't move forward, I feel stuck.

The reframe: I've had hard moments in life and I've overcome every one of them. I am open to the universe showing me just how easy life can be! 

➡️ This feels fun and hopeful! I feel more clear and able to see a happy life ahead, despite any struggles that may arise.

✨ I'm only worthy of love if I'm actively meeting someone else's needs. (Yikes!!)

➡️ This feels heartbreaking. I feel small and invisible, and I feel my spirit shrinking and so I limit myself from expanding or evolving.

The reframe: I'm worthy because it is my birthright, and my worthiness doesn't come from external factors. I am responsible for meeting my own needs first and loving myself fully.

➡️ This feels expansive and light. I feel empowered to care for myself, and know that when my needs are met I am resourced and able to give more authentically.

✨ I'm too wounded and traumatized and I'm never going to be over to heal. (Talk about a limiting belief!)

➡️ This feels desperate. I feel like I'm a thousand pounds, stuck in pain and the deep ache of wounding. It feels like giving up, embodied.

The reframe: I am capable of healing my wounding, and my trauma does not define me. I am so much more than what has happened to me.

➡️ This feels empowering, and I can create separation from what happened and who I am. It feels like I have enough space to look at the wounding from this perspective.

I could go on and on, but you get the idea. When we keep replaying the thoughts that keep us stuck, we are unconsciously programming our life to show up with those same experiences and factors. 

Don't get me wrong, this takes practice and I still do it several times a day. But slowly, over time, the mind actually starts to catch the limiting beliefs and thoughts itself and puts in the reframe before the ick feeling of that thought takes over our body as well.

If you've been wanting support with this and other aspects of your rise into wholeness (you are already whole, by the way, but sometimes you need help remembering that), you're welcome to check out my coaching package to see if it's a good fit for you. 

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I'll leave you with this to consider, if not now, when will it be time to show up for yourself in the deepest way and bring yourself up to the reality you've been dreaming of?